Overcoming Fears-Are You Feeling Helpless and Stuck in a Killing Job?

Wed, 30 Dec 2009 10:10:53 +0000

You will always miss 100 percent of the shot that you don’t take –John. L. Mason

Face it. Overcoming fears is more of taking actions than of wishes. Why you are still struggling with overcoming fears and making a positive change in respect to that job that is killing your spirit and making you so miserable? Fear of possible negative outcome.

You are sticking with that self-defeating job because everyone including your loved ones thinks that it is the safest thing to do and you lack the guts to appear “odd” .

You are probably trying to find solace by playing up old feelings and going back in time with those nostalgia- the self pity , reminding yourself of all you been through and consoling yourself that your present situation is the best you can have .

You are probably thinking like this : Next year I will leave or make a change ; Let me try and combine this work with something else to save enough to leave or make a change; I have to make enough money to cover cost incase of any eventuality; I am just complaining too much ,everyone is coping with the situation; A bird at hand is better than two in the bush ; I am really working at overcoming fears in me;

Holding on to this job is the right thing to do now , I have so many responsibilities and can’t afford this risk; I can’t be so stupid as to leave a job if am not very sure of making enough money else where; Need to have money always , it is too much risk running a business , what if money does not come as expected? The list is endless.

There will always be enough excuses to keep you under until you decide to break off and take a step of faith. It is in making moves that you overcome fears. If you find yourself in such job trap , it may require a change to another job that its conditions are harmonious with your life.

It might be a case of leaving day job entirely and starting a business of your own. In my case , I knew I was done with day jobs. This move will go a long way to help overcoming fear in you. And there is no better time than now.
All your cards don’t need to be perfect. The passion for the realisation of your vision and having better options in life should be propelling enough to cause you to take the necessary strides towards overcoming fear of changes.

A deep conviction in your spirit that you are in agreement with the will of God for your life can really help in overcoming fears. This conviction will come as you seek the face of God and confess His promise of guidance . Isaiah 48:17 , “I am God, your God, who teaches you how to live right and well. I show you what to do, where to go.”

The first step to overcoming procrastination is to eliminate all the reasons and excuses for not taking immediate action—John L. Mason. Above also goes for overcoming fears.
The longer we take to act on God’s direction, the less clear it becomes —-John L. Mason .

The more you waste time not taking steps, the more likely the vision will appear unattainable or even stupid .

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Motivational: What’s this New Year Resolution Thing?

Sat, 10 Jan 2009 12:05:00 +0000

‘New Year Resolution’ is one phrase that I have come to hear at a certain time of the year almost all the years of my life . It has continued through my life.

When I was a child, I remember, my parents do ask us to make a new year resolution and encouraged us to stick to it .I remember ,I would say something as my new year resolution.

At least, that was expected of an obedient , normal child. I can’t remember any of those resolutions for new year that stuck deep enough to be remembered after the first day of saying it .It was like that for me and most likely for most people .

Some maybe more resolute and keep new year resolution a bit longer but most often the new year resolution idea gets swept away from their minds with the passage of events as the year gets older.

Maybe it is the wishy- washy way it is being handled that brought about the non seriousness attached to it . But is there really anything as NEW YEAR RESOLUTION?

Is the phrase wrong ? Or is it the attitude towards it ?I believe when people talk about new year resolution they mean that there is one or two issues in their lives which they think is not so right and now they are stating their intention to turn new leaves. Nice thought . Then why don’t people get to do much with it? Maybe is that of understanding, believing, defining and actioning.

Let’s Take It Step by Step

1. Understanding : You got to understand that wrong habits are deeper than we think. There is a spiritual dimension to it that has to be reckoned with . The ability to live right comes from God .

No wonder the bible says in John 1:12,’ “To all who received Him,who believed in His name ,He gave the power to become the children of God’”,and Romans 3:22, ‘”The righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe…. .”

When you accept Christ into your life . There is an enablement to live right before God . It is a gift . It is called the gift of righteousness. With this enablement you can step out in faith.

2. Believing: This understanding brings the need to believe God’s gift and accept it . You accept it by believing it .

3. Defining Your Expectation: You havet to analyse the different areas of your life and categorise them according to your expectation. You may categories the different areas you want improvement as follows: Spiritual life ;Emotional life ;Physical life ;Career ; Relationships.

Spiritual development comes through fellowship with God. You reach your highest overall development in fellowship with God . Why? For all the strength and power needed to put all other areas of your life right come from your spirit.

Your spiritual development grows with your relationship with God .You probably need development in this area of your life . Your best companion will be your bible. Get to know God’s word for your life and trust Him to lead you right.

Are you fearful , insecure , angry and anxious ? Whichever area of your emotions is running you down. Are there some habits you think need to be changed? Are there areas in your relationship with others you need to work on?

4. Actioning : Now you have defined the different areas you need improvement. Then set goals and break those goals into actionable parts. For example, you want an improvement in your finance, then start by stating how much you want to realize . Then set in place action plans to achieve this goal.

It may require getting a new job, starting a business, attending courses for better qualification.Whatever it may take, let it be understandable , actionable , time-bound .

You may need a better control of your emotions. Maybe you are irritable . Define what you think causes the irritation . It could be that you find it hard tolerating others and flay up when things don’t agree with you.

Then start working on your temper . When people say or do what you will ordinarily get offended with, practise keeping quite until you are quietened on the inside( not easy but you can do it ).

Try taking one word at a time , don’t rush it . Be determined to talk nicely when all your nerves are screaming for a shout. Continue to practise this and trust God for the strength to live right.

Maybe you need an improvement in your academics . How much of your time is wasted moving from post to post ,living a lie , an illusion of being studious, running after lecturers to help with one course or the other,and looking for one student to teach you one thing or the other?

How much of your time do you actually sit down and really study? Moving up and down is much easier than sitting down and studying . You need time management planning. Define the time for all your activities. Give yourself sufficient time to study.

If it is in your career that you need improvement; what about going for a course to be better informed? Define the time for your registration and duration of the course and get on with it . Let this year’s New Year Resolution be the one that will bring the transformation you so desire.
Be inspired.

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